SPICE YOUR MARRIAGE

Many claim that they are bored in their marriage and so turn outside or get lured outside. Though unfaithfulness has no excuse, how can two grown adults married to each other with sexual needs, spice up their love and sex life?

1. "Have secret codes"

Call each other secret intimate names that only you two know. This adds thrill between you two.

2. "Have no boundaries on what you can tell each other sexually"

You should express all your sexual thoughts without inhibition to your spouse, not an outsider. No editing your naughtiness.

3. "Don't over spiritualize sex"

Don't over spiritualize love making and your marriage to the point where making love is viewed as less Godly. True spirituality merges with the physical and emotional needs in love making in marriage. A lot of people feel frustrated because their spouse has a negative view towards sex.

4. "Emotionally be available for each other"

Let your spouse be the person you can lean on, the person you can tell how you truly feel. People have an affair with an outsider because they feel emotionally disconnected from their spouse. Stay emotionally connected to your spouse.

5. "Plan for love making"

In affairs, there is a longing, a build up to sex. In marriage, have moments when you two scheme how you will make love. Plan everything. The time, the romance, the use of petals on the floor or extra sweet actions of love, the purchasing of massage oil. Prepare your spouse by telling him/her what you will do to his/her body. Have moments when making love is not the only agenda.

6. "Give each other no stress"

The person people tend to have an affair with don't give stress, instead, they are a stress reliever. Affairs are built on a place to escape to. Don't be the person your spouse wants to escape from but, be the person your spouse wants to run to.

7. "Give your sexual parts a name"

A name that only the two in the marriage know. Secret names make two people feel they have something special going on.

8. "Talk more than domestic stuff"

Don't let your marriage be reduced to talking about domestic issues: house rent, bills, children's report card, bills, chores, responsibilities, in-laws. All these are good but be exciting. Be fun. Talk about life. Joke around. Have a good time. People run to affairs because they are a break from the domestic matters.

9. "Be playful"

Be suggestive. Tease your spouse. 

10. "Flirt"

Alot of flirting goes on in affairs; whether on the phone or face to face. Flirting should take place in your marriage. Talk sexually to your spouse even when you're far from each other. As you cook, or do chores; flirt with each other.

11. "Be secretive"

Don't tell your friends about your sexual marital experiences. Keeping those experiences a secret heightens their thrill. This is why affairs are often kept a secret.

12. "Play music that sets the mood"

Play some love songs, slow jams. Have songs that remind you how that intimate moment last night was sweet. Your marriage will come alive.

13. "Travel"

In affairs, people go for road trips and travel, they book hotels. Do that with your spouse. See the world. Make new experiences.

14. "Have a bedroom make over"

The same look in the bedroom will eventually get boring. After a long while, change the decor and settings of the bedroom to inspire a fresh flame.

15. "Look the part"

Don't get comfortable. Work on looking sexy. Invest in lingerie, stay clean, smell good. Don't be the same old person to your spouse.

THE FUTURE OF COMMUNICATION: A SYARIAH PERSPECTIVE ON GREEN TECHNOLOGY

 

The year 2050 is not far off, and the trajectory of human communication is poised for a dramatic shift, largely driven by the convergence of green technology and evolving societal needs. This article explores the potential future of communication in 2050, focusing on how green technology will shape this landscape and examining these developments through the lens of Syariah teachings.

Green Technology: A Catalyst for Change

Green technology, or clean technology, encompasses a wide range of innovations aimed at minimizing environmental impact. In the realm of communication, this translates to:

• Renewable Energy Sources: A shift away from fossil fuel-dependent data centers towards renewable energy sources like solar, wind, and hydro power. This will significantly reduce the carbon footprint of communication infrastructure.
• Energy-Efficient Devices: The development of more energy-efficient devices, from smartphones and laptops to network infrastructure, will further minimize energy consumption.
• Sustainable Materials: The use of recycled and biodegradable materials in the manufacturing of communication devices will reduce electronic waste and promote a circular economy.
• AI-Powered Optimization: Artificial intelligence (AI) can optimize communication networks, reducing energy consumption while maintaining or even improving performance.

 

Syariah Principles and Green Communication

Syariah, the Islamic legal system, provides a comprehensive framework for human conduct, encompassing social, economic, and environmental dimensions.³ Several key principles of Syariah are particularly relevant to the future of green communication:

• Hifz al-Nafs (Preservation of Life): This principle emphasizes the importance of safeguarding human life and well-being. Green technology, by reducing pollution and mitigating climate change, directly contributes to hifz al-nafs.
• Hifz al-'Aql (Preservation of Intellect): Access to information and communication is crucial for intellectual development and societal progress. Green technology can ensure equitable access to communication services, promoting hifz al-'aql.
• Hifz al-Nasl (Preservation of Progeny): A sustainable environment is essential for the well-being of future generations.Green communication technologies can play a role in educating and mobilizing communities towards environmental conservation, thus contributing to hifz al-nasl.
• Hifz al-Mal (Preservation of Wealth): Green technology can promote economic sustainability by reducing energy costs and creating new green jobs. This aligns with the Syariah principle of hifz al-mal, which encourages responsible economic practices.
• Hifz al-'Ird (Preservation of Honor): Green communication can facilitate respectful and constructive dialogue, promoting social harmony and upholding hifz al-'ird.

 

 

While the potential benefits of green communication are significant, several challenges and considerations must be addressed:

• Digital Divide: Ensuring equitable access to green communication technologies for all segments of society is crucial.
• Data Privacy and Security: The increasing reliance on digital communication raises concerns about data privacy and security. Syariah principles of privacy and confidentiality must be upheld in the design and implementation of green communication technologies.
• Ethical Use of AI: The use of AI in communication networks raises ethical considerations. It is essential to ensure that AI is used responsibly and does not exacerbate existing inequalities.
• Social Impact: The social impact of green communication technologies must be carefully considered. It is important to ensure that these technologies do not disrupt social cohesion or exacerbate existing social tensions.

 

Conclusion

The future of human communication is inextricably linked to the development and adoption of green technology. By aligning these advancements with the principles of Syariah, we can create a communication landscape that is not only sustainable but also just, equitable, and conducive to human flourishing. This requires a multi-stakeholder approach, involving policymakers, technologists, and civil society, to ensure that the benefits of green communication are shared by all.

 

KESAN BUMI HIJAU TERHADAP KOMUNIKASI MANUSIA DALAM 50 TAHUN AKAN DATANG

 

Dalam tempoh 50 tahun akan datang, pelaksanaan bumi hijau yang berfokus kepada kelestarian alam sekitar akan membawa perubahan ketara terhadap cara manusia berkomunikasi. Bumi hijau, yang menggalakkan penggunaan teknologi lestari dan sumber tenaga diperbaharui, mempunyai kesan langsung terhadap komunikasi manusia dari sudut teknologi, sosial, dan spiritual.

1. Perkembangan Teknologi Hijau

Penggunaan teknologi hijau seperti komunikasi tanpa wayar menggunakan tenaga solar atau sumber mesra alam lain akan mengurangkan kebergantungan kepada teknologi konvensional yang mencemarkan alam sekitar. Dalam Al-Quran, Allah berfirman:

"Dan janganlah kamu merosakkan di bumi setelah Allah memperbaikinya; itu lebih baik bagimu jika kamu benar-benar orang yang beriman."
(Surah Al-A'raf, 7:56)

Ayat ini menekankan pentingnya menjaga keseimbangan alam. Dengan menerapkan teknologi hijau, komunikasi dapat dilakukan tanpa merosakkan alam sekitar, selari dengan prinsip menjaga bumi sebagai amanah.

2. Kemudahan Akses dan Hubungan Sosial

Teknologi mampan yang mesra alam, seperti rangkaian berkuasa tenaga bersih, akan memungkinkan komunikasi lebih murah, pantas, dan inklusif. Dalam masyarakat moden, hubungan jarak jauh akan menjadi lebih erat melalui peranti hijau, meningkatkan keupayaan untuk bekerjasama secara global. Ini juga memberi ruang untuk mempererat silaturahim, sesuai dengan hadis Rasulullah SAW:

"Barang siapa yang ingin diluaskan rezekinya dan dipanjangkan usianya, maka hendaklah dia menyambung silaturahim."
(Hadis Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim)

Hubungan erat antara manusia yang difasilitasi oleh teknologi hijau mencerminkan keberkatan daripada pelestarian alam.

3. Penerapan Nilai Spiritual dalam Komunikasi

Komunikasi manusia dalam dunia hijau akan cenderung kembali kepada fitrah manusia sebagai khalifah yang bertanggungjawab. Kesedaran ini bakal memupuk nilai kejujuran, keadilan, dan amanah dalam interaksi. Seperti firman Allah:

"Sesungguhnya Aku hendak menjadikan khalifah di muka bumi..."
(Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:30)

Sebagai khalifah, manusia bertanggungjawab memanfaatkan teknologi dengan bijaksana tanpa menjejaskan keseimbangan ekosistem dan nilai keimanan.

Penutup

Dalam era bumi hijau 50 tahun akan datang, komunikasi manusia tidak lagi hanya bergantung pada teknologi, tetapi akan lebih berlandaskan pada tanggungjawab kepada alam, keperluan sosial, dan nilai spiritual. Melalui pendekatan ini, kemajuan teknologi hijau bukan sahaja akan mencipta kehidupan yang lestari tetapi turut memupuk kesatuan dan keberkatan sejajar dengan syariat Islam.

 

Navigating Toxic Workplaces: A Syariah-Guided Approach

The workplace can be a challenging environment, and unfortunately, we may encounter individuals who exhibit toxic behaviors. These behaviors can include:

• Gossiping and backstabbing: Spreading rumors, undermining colleagues, and engaging in destructive criticism.
• Negativity and pessimism: Constantly complaining, finding fault, and creating a draining atmosphere.
• Bullying and intimidation: Using threats, insults, and aggressive behavior to control others.
• Lack of respect and professionalism: Ignoring boundaries, being condescending, and exhibiting poor communication.

While workplace dynamics can be complex, Syariah provides a framework for navigating these challenges with grace and integrity. This framework emphasizes self-preservation, responding with kindness and compassion, and seeking Allah's guidance throughout the process.

Understanding the Root of Toxicity

Before we delve into specific actions, it's crucial to understand that toxic behavior often stems from underlying issues. These can include:

• Personal Struggles: The individual might be dealing with personal challenges like stress, anxiety, or depression, which can manifest in negative behavior.
• Lack of Emotional Intelligence: They may lack the ability to understand and manage their emotions effectively, leading to outbursts or manipulative behavior.
• Past Trauma: Unresolved past experiences can contribute to negative patterns of behavior and difficulty in forming healthy relationships.

Seeking Allah's Guidance: A Foundation for Response

• Dua (Supplication): Regular and sincere supplication to Allah (SWT) is paramount. Seek guidance, strength, and patience in dealing with the situation. Supplicate for the well-being of the toxic individual and for the strength to navigate the situation with wisdom and grace.
  • Examples of relevant duas:
    • Seeking protection from Shaytan: "A'udhu billahi minash-shaytaanir-rajim."
    • Seeking patience: "Allahumma inni as'aluka sabran jamilan wa 'azza'an ajran."
• Istikhara Prayer: Perform Istikhara prayer whenever faced with a difficult decision regarding how to handle the situation. This allows you to seek Allah's guidance on the best course of action.

Protecting Yourself: Prioritizing Well-being

• Physical and Emotional Boundaries:
  • Limit Interaction: Minimize unnecessary interactions with the toxic individual.
  • Communicate Clearly: Set clear boundaries about acceptable behavior. For example, "I am not comfortable with gossip," or "Please refrain from raising your voice."
  • Assert Yourself: Politely but firmly address any inappropriate behavior. This can be done by calmly and assertively stating your concerns.
• Self-Care:
  • Physical Health: Prioritize healthy eating, exercise, and adequate sleep to maintain physical and mental resilience.
  • Emotional Well-being: Engage in activities that bring you joy and peace, such as spending time in nature, reading, or listening to calming music.
  • Seek Support: Connect with supportive friends, family members, or a therapist to discuss your challenges and receive emotional support.

Responding with Islamic Values

• Kindness and Compassion:
  • Forgive: If possible, forgive the individual for their actions. Holding onto resentment can only harm your own peace of mind. Remember the prophetic saying: "The most beloved of people to Allah are those who forgive others."
  • Empathy (with Caution): Try to understand the underlying reasons for their behavior, but remember that this does not excuse their actions.
  • Offer Guidance (with Caution): If appropriate and the situation allows, offer gentle guidance and reminders of Islamic values such as kindness, cooperation, and respect. However, be mindful of your own safety and well-being. This should be done with sincerity and without judgment.
• Focus on Your Character:
  • Maintain Integrity: Remain steadfast in your adherence to Islamic values, even when faced with adversity. This includes maintaining honesty, trustworthiness, and good character.
  • Focus on Positive Contributions: Channel your energy into productive work and positive interactions with other colleagues.

Utilizing Workplace Resources

• Company Policies: Familiarize yourself with company policies on harassment, discrimination, and workplace conduct.
• Human Resources: If the situation warrants, report the issue to HR and seek their assistance in resolving the matter. Document any incidents, including dates, times, and specific details of the toxic behavior.

Remember:

• Patience is Key: Dealing with toxic individuals can be a challenging and ongoing process.
• Trust in Allah: Ultimately, place your trust in Allah (SWT) and know that He will guide you through these challenges. Remember verses from the Quran that emphasize patience and reliance on Allah, such as Surah Al-Baqarah (2:153).

Additional Considerations:

• Seek Guidance from Religious Scholars: Consult with religious scholars for specific guidance tailored to your individual circumstances.
• Consider Mediation or Counseling: In some cases, mediation or counseling may be helpful in resolving conflicts and improving communication.

By understanding the underlying issues, seeking Allah's guidance, prioritizing self-preservation, and responding with kindness and integrity, you can navigate challenging workplace situations with grace and maintain your own well-being while adhering to the principles of Syariah.

Disclaimer: This information is for general guidance only.